That had been my destiny. From when I was no younger than 4 years old. I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that I was going to finish secondary school, get into a prestigious university (if my parents have money, Harvard would be nice), find a way to avoid NYSC, make children feel better, give them painless injections, pastor people and preach God’s word, and just be a happy human being.
That’s not too much to ask? I would grow up to become a Pastor or a doctor. As easy as E.Z.Y. But it took no more than two JAMBs, one pre-degree, a couple of failures and self-doubt that made me realise – life never happens the way you plan. I do not think I’m speaking for just myself when I say that life has a way of turning you in the opposite direction, slapping you silly until you see stars and find that you are in the middle of nowhere.
For the sake of this content, let’s assume my name is Fine Girl. I am Fine Girl, and I’m an event professional. I studied Microbiology at University, I’m a marketing consultant for an international company and I’m on the board of directors for an automobile firm. That is me! A lady with a seemingly confused resume.
How did I get here? One word – GOD. I made mistakes, no be small, but a wise man told me “you have to give God all your experiences – every single one – and let him use them. That’s the only way you won’t have regrets in life”.
I found that there are doors that are open that you shouldn’t go through. I find that there are doors you have to kick open. And I have found, that in both situations, God can be there.
I used to hear that purpose is that thing that you are on earth for. If you don’t find it, you are wasting your life. And I got in a season of deep deep deep depression. How smart could I be? I can’t even figure out why I was here. But, yet another wise man said. “Purpose is whatever God tells you on a daily basis.” And I “EUREKA”! God says to apply to this school, I do. God says to greet someone on the road, I do. God says to say hello to this man, I do. Everything in my life that has happened did so it could lead up to that one moment. That is my purpose at that moment, and that is how I’ve chosen to live my life. The purpose is the big picture. I’m happy to go step by step, precepts upon precepts as long as I’ve got GOD.
That was how I met my husband, that was how I worked for companies in Kenya, South Africa and Nigeria. That was how I worked with my first boos who changed my life and that was how I got here.
I left school with that mentality, a 5-year plan and a word from God, but it took me a while to adjust to the city life. LAGOS. The place of toiling. Traffic on end. Expensive food. Peanut salary. Irresponsible men. Debtors. Wannabes. LAGOS.
But I’m thriving. How? One word – GOD.
If you want to know more, look out for my book in December. I shall not be gisting you all this information when you can just wait for that XYZ-paged juicy goodness. It doesn’t tell you what to do and how you should live your life. It tells you my journey, and how you can enjoy yours from the start and follow through until you start to enjoy it.
“Dr. Pastor Ms. Fine Girl.” Pfft. Bygones! If only I knew.
But you never know – if I’ve learned anything, nothing is impossible on this journey. It’s a journey – you never know what story you’d be telling in another year. But all that matters? One word – GOD.